As a mental health counselor who specializes in working with hard-to-manage children and youth,
it always makes me upset when I read another article disseminating
misinformation about extremely violent, unmanageable kids. For decades, mental health, juvenile
corrections, and juvenile court professionals have had tested, documented methods to best
manage unmanageable students. Even though these tools have been widely available for
a half century or so, most of these targeted techniques and time-tested insights into
unmanageable kids have not reached most K-12 educators.
Today, another major education outlet printed yet another misguided article that urged
teachers to build stronger relationships with
their most severely misbehaved students. The author asserted that relationship-building
is the best way to reduce violence, bullying,
cyberbullying, disrespect, defiance, property damage, and harm to others. That assertion isn't
just wrong, it's dangerous.
Any mental health professional can
tell you that strong student-teacher relationships are important with MOST
students, but that relationship-based approaches always fail with the
youngsters who act out the most. Even worse, attempting to use relationship-based
approaches with this population doesn't just fail big-time, but these tactics generate
other problems. Here is just one example of the serious fallout that occurs when
counter-indicated methods are used: Relationship-building sends an
unintended message to the seriously misbehaved student, who interprets the trust-building efforts to
mean that the adult "doesn't have a clue who they're dealing with so I can do what I want and
get away with anything."
Just as no one single text book would work with all
students, one single style of behavior management interventions
will not work with all students. When
educators use one-size-fits-all methods with severely misbehaved students,
they will find "nothing works." You may have already have discovered that
nothing seems to work to rein in your most unmanageable students. Now, you
know why.
I'm Ruth Herman Wells, M.S., the Director and Trainer for Youth Change Workshops.
This issue has must-have, tested, documented, established,
more effective strategies for unmanageable students. These behavior management strategies
will work better than the counter-indicated approaches you are using now. These
methods are taken from my new
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